Addison Gregory, Staff Reporter
Hearts can break, hearts can bend, and hearts can shatter. To break a heart is worse than any other form of torture. There is no break in the pain, there is no relief.
Breaking a heart is to break a person, to break a soul. There is no coming back from that. Challenges change people, and challenges of the heart are the most brutal.
Teens, as they have just been introduced to society, experience broken hearts rather frequently. From freshman to senior, a broken heart is a connection across all grades. Teenage relationships typically only last about six months, but the memories made in those short months can last a lifetime.
“My longest relationship was five months.” Freshman Cristina Perez-Flores said.
They may not last long, and they may not end well, but the memories are something that lasts.
“It’s just the little moments…… The hugs and feelings were so nice and warm and heartfelt” Freshman Guiliana Barrientos said.
First loves are the most brutal. To love someone and for them to leave strains the heart, and can make the most level-headed headed people make brash decisions.
“After I broke up with him, I recorded a lot of tik toks, mostly embarrassing videos, I never posted them though. I blasted music and started yelling to it, I started posting weird stuff, and I dyed my hair red,” Freshman Cristina Perez-Flores said.
Relationships are a rite of passage in high school. Over 63% of high schoolers have at least one relationship before 12th grade. Relationships help the maturity process, and change your character.
“Relationships become an important part of identity development and support the transition into young adulthood,” Psychology Today, Kelly-Ann Allen said.
To be in a good relationship, you have to open your heart, and give it away. Be careful of who you give it to, for what they do with it is up to them. They could be kind and gentle, or they could outright destroy it.
Hearts are fragile, easy to break, but hard to mend. It takes time, and even then, sometimes you never truly fix it. A heart riddled with cracks threatens to break, all it takes is a touch.
“Basically, we were on call and he just randomly said he didn’t want to be with me, and started saying things he didn’t like about me, then he just hung up,” freshman Ruby Martinez Pasillas said.
What you walk into a relationship expecting changes the outcome. Adults and kids have different perspectives on the matter.
“A ‘good relationship’ means different things to different people. However, good adult relationships generally involve 2 people who respect and can communicate with each other, and have equal rights, opportunities and responsibilities,” according to Better Health.
High School students, as they haven’t had enough relationships to define the good and the bad, don’t really understand what a good relationship entails.
“It was a situationship, friends with benefits. I was head over heels, I thought that being ignored and neglected was all like normal. And physically abusive, and shaming, body shaming, slut shaming. I didn’t realize that that’s not how it should be until he was done with me, and I got in anew relationship and realized that that’s not how it should be at all,” freshman Guiliana Barrientos said.
Relationships can be good, relationships can be bad. They can leave you with heartwarming memories, or soul shattering scars. But they all matter, experiences make us who we are. Relationships, struggles, challenges, grief, loss, they are the building blocks that our personality is built off of. The blocks on which we are built.